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Building lasting long term relationships
Dr Fisher, a biological anthropologist researcher, has some interesting things to say about the changing nature of dating and some very helpful tips for sustaining long term relationships. Her top tips for long term partnerships: Novelty is very important for couples to keep the relationship enlivened Sex is good for us Stay physically connected to […]
Continue readingAwareness Building in your Couple Relationship
Couples sometimes seek counselling after many years of unhappiness in their relationship. For some couples, they may decide on separation as the best path to take and the counselling will focus on an amicable separation. If the couple have children, the focus will be on creating and maintaining a workable partnership to meet the needs […]
Continue readingKeeping passion alive in your long term relationship
Erotic intelligence, human sexuality, passion and desire are some of the terms used to discuss sex. It is often thought that desire diminishes in long term relationships. While this may be the case, Esther Perel, a researcher and clinician in human sexuality, proposes some fresh thinking about why desire may not survive, even in very happy […]
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Hope
Hope is important for the change process. Couples often have different levels of hope about improving their relationship. It’s important that the therapist act as a hope coach for the couple who want to improve their relationship. While the therapist is working for the relationship, it’s important that the couple are equally committed to the […]
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Welcome Home Hug
The welcome home hug is one of the best ways to help a couple recalibrate after separation. Lots of research has gone into understanding how a full body hug helps to calm our nervous system down–that way, we are less likely to get reactive as we readjust to each other after separation. It doesn’t sound […]
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Safe Fighting
Have you heard anyone say that their parents never fought? When I used to hear this as a younger person, I immediately thought my parents must have been particularly bad at being partners as they would have some animated fights–never violent, but pretty loud at times. I would also see them make up and get […]
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Awareness
Relationship counselling involves paying attention to your partner. We start to operate on autopilot once our relationship is established and we can end up stopping paying real attention to each other. We take each other for granted and the freshness-and-novelty factor starts to diminish. The process of working in the psychobiological mode is tuning in […]
Continue reading- in Love by Kate Watson
Who Doesn’t Want to Be Loved?
The process of relationship counselling is more than just trouble-shooting. Once the partners have the ‘expert’s manual’ for each other, they’re in a position to build the sort of relationship that makes them feel secure, creative, and engaged. They can really show up in their relationship. Really showing up refers to the fact that they are growing […]
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Words Tend to Be Inadequate
Humans are verbal creatures and we tend to over-rely on language as our main form of communication. With our increasingly digital world, so many words are texted without the benefit of a human voice and accompanying body-language to help decipher meaning. Prosody is the rhythm and sounds of language. A dull monotone, for example, does […]
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Why Do Some Relationships Start Out So Well but Turn Bad?
When we seek out partners, we’re actually attracted to the familiar. We want someone sufficiently similar to what we know, but perhaps with enough novelty to keep it interesting. In those early months of a relationship, we are flooded with love hormones which literally give us rose coloured glasses. We rarely see our partner’s faults, […]
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